Hello—
And here we are, moving into the latter part of October…
How goes it? Patience wearing a bit thin is it? Pace Your Self accordingly. This is the status quo until further notice. Argh, yes?
So let's shore up some basics of the practice and consider some other aspects of those basics that will help us all going forward.
It continues to be (at the very least) a time that is ripe to fray nerves, shorten our fuses and test our resolve. We can be all over the charts emotionally and soooo ready for something else. And yet…
How about we add this piece into the mix—a "blessing", if you will:
“I leave it with you with respect.”
It's such an elegant way to reset boundaries, take care of Your Self and move on. "I Leave It With You" (2:32) Facebook or YouTube.
This is a reminder of the subtler aspects of boundary work. We can have such rigid notions around boundaries. And yet—the most effective ones are fluid—just not porous.
It's also another way to consider "Yours or Mine?" (2:41) by parsing a moment and clarifying who owns what in it—emotionally, historically, and even physically.
And finally, it supports what can be one of the trickiest parts of the practice "Holding the Space" (2:36). Just where is your place in someone else’s process? and what is the best action to take—if any? It involves boundary work that is sometimes very subtle, and a keen sense of what is yours and isn’t yours in the
moment.
Do you see how this all goes far beyond just creating a "barrier" of some kind? how it's a constant, fluid, organic practice that varies from moment to moment? adjusting here and there? reminding you to be present—again? How are you with all this fluidity? Share your take by commenting.
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In the meantime, may you continue to refine your boundaries by owning what's yours, releasing what isn't, and allowing Your Self to be present in the moment.
Here's to You and your continued healing.
Stay safe and well.
Carry on—gently.
Breathe…
Until next time—
Thanks much.
Cheers,
Steph
Stephanie Swafford, BCPP, BFRP
"When It’s Time to Listen To Your Self"
