Hello—
and here we are, more than halfway through the year…
How are your relationships weathering this ongoing, tumultuous, seemingly endless storm? Despite it feeling like treacherous waters that we're navigating, there continue to be deep teachings and rich gifts to gather. Really? It doesn't necessarily feel like that, does it? And yet—once again, when we're willing to embody the lesson, remarkable shifts can happen and we can unload very
unsettling moments.
Let's take, for example, the end of a relationship—often collateral damage in the throes of upheaval. While this practice works for any relationship, it is particularly effective for when we come to the end of an intimate partnering or heart relationship.
How many times have we all reached for the phrase "But I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him / her /them"? For me, more times that I care to remember. And yet—while invoking this notion can sometimes soften the immediate blow of the moment, it is ultimately misguided and doesn't serve us in the long run. "Best Thing" (3:03)—(YouTube Link or Facebook Link)
And how can we dive a bit deeper into this tangle? Two pieces from the SwaffWords© Archives can help in resetting Our Selves and practicing what truly matters to and for us.
"You Would Think…" (2:12)—Yes. YOU would think. That's your agenda supporting your expectations. It doesn't allow for someone else's process, needs or
patterns.
"Cherished" (3:23)—You have the right to be cherished. Period. While not everyone will exercise that right,
when we own and embody it, it matters much less whether or not we're the "best thing" that's ever happened to someone.
"The light, the clarity, the insight—your guidance
is precious."
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In the meantime, may you release the need to be the "best thing" for someone, while allowing them to have their own process as you stake your claim to be cherished.
Stay safe and well.
Onwards—gently.
Until next time—
Thanks much.
Cheers,
Steph
Stephanie Swafford, BCPP, BFRP
"When It’s Time to Listen To Your Self"
