Welcome to June! To me, it's a month that's no longer spring and yet isn't quite summer either—plus it's always felt pretty rapid to me. In video terms, I see it as the middle of a dissolve between what was and what's becoming. It's also a ripe time to take a breath and just check in with our practice.
Let's get right to it: How many times have we all caught Our Selves saying "If only I'd done thus and so, things would be better now." Really? How do you figure that?
It's so easy, tempting and even seductive to reframe a current upset or disappointment in this way. It gives us any number of options to "explain" how we got to this moment. And the explanation can run the gamut from "I should've known better" all the way to giving our Inner Critic full voice: "How stupid could I have been?"
Lovely…
The only surefire result is that things would be different now—not necessarily better or worse—just different. Let that sink in. We're so quick to jump to the better option, and yet had we made a different decision, things might have ended up much, much worse.
When we own that an outcome would just be different, it takes the sting out of where we are right now and allows us to adjust and move forward more quickly instead of getting stuck in the mire of "Shoulds".
So let's extend last month's theme of staying in the moment and responding to what is. What do you do when you find Your Self in the throes of "If Only" (2:58)?
