Stand by to say goodbye to February. Already? So it would seem…
Let's continue to build on the subtleties of boundaries that we addressed in the previous SwaffWords©. Last time we talked about how boundaries can be road signs that simply redirect us instead of stopping us cold in our practice.
This time, let's consider what can happen when we extend boundaries way beyond the norm. This can be extremely helpful when we're dealing with a particularly thorny challenge. It allows for the work to continue in a way that isn't overwhelming and doesn't stop our process.
When we know we have to set a boundary and yet are stalled by the very idea of doing just that, it's a good time to expand the space and time frame that will be needed to create the desired effect.
For example: Say I know I need to move from where I'm living—the specifics of why are a separate issue. I just know I can't live where I'm living forever. Instead of backing My Self into a corner with a pressured boundary, what if I take the certainty of "not like this forever" and then begin to shorten that to not like this for the next
two years, six months, three weeks, etc. Settle into whatever option feels better—or least not as upsetting—for the time being. Then make the choices and take the steps necessary for you to move forward.
Begin to play with the concept of "Expansive Boundaries" (3:26):
