Hello and welcome—

This is that point in the year when I start to feel things both slowing down and speeding up at the same time. Feelings and emotions are often heightened, and expectations can be off the charts.

It's also a time when I shore up my boundary practice. Ugh. Yes. Boundaries. And like all other practices (think learning a language or playing an instrument) the more we do them, the easier they are.

And the easier any boundary practice gets, the subtler it becomes.  It's not nearly as obvious, blatant or in our faces as it once was when we we learning to recognize boundaries—or—their absence. There is an intricacy, a refinement to reading a person's behavior, a situation, or even Our Selves that can shift ever so slightly from moment to moment and inform our boundary choices.

The more facile we become at "reading" and then responding instead of reacting to those moments, the easier our day to day lives can be.

How adept are you with the boundaries of "Finessed Negotiations" (2:13)?